Logic would suggest, said former U.S. Ambassador Swanee Hunt, that a woman who lost a son or daughter to a war based on ethnic hatred would become bitter and broken. That mother might be expected to devote herself to vengeance, further fuelling the fires of hatred. "But what we find," Hunt said as she hosted a recent gathering, "is women who say 'this happened to me - and it must never happen to anyone else, because I know how terrible it feels.'”